How do you deal with depression?

[thedeadlyassassin]

Guys, I'm really on the edge of becoming depressed. My head everynight is overloaded with stress and I get pains in my body and headaches. I may have a nice conversation with someone, and totally not remember it but I remember one little immature insult.

I got drunk one night, still feeling depressed and angry and wrote a very cruel email about a love one, that that person saw, and I regret it heavily.

I feel more comfortable at work then my home, because my work takes my mind off of it.

I feel like I'm full of rage and hate and am getting nowhere in my life. I am not suicidal, but I leave places just so people don't have to be around me.

My main point is, if someone can give me some advice so I don't feel like crap all the time that'd be great, and for anyone, if I say anything hurtful in the near future, I am very very sorry, just know my life isn't going very well right now.

[TheSilentAssassin]

Re: How do you deal with depression?

Guys, I'm really on the edge of becoming depressed. My head everynight is overloaded with stress and I get pains in my body and headaches. I may have a nice conversation with someone, and totally not remember it but I remember one little immature insult.

I got drunk one night, still feeling depressed and angry and wrote a very cruel email about a love one, that that person saw, and I regret it heavily.

I feel more comfortable at work then my home, because my work takes my mind off of it.

I feel like I'm full of rage and hate and am getting nowhere in my life. I am not suicidal, but I leave places just so people don't have to be around me.

My main point is, if someone can give me some advice so I don't feel like crap all the time that'd be great, and for anyone, if I say anything hurtful in the near future, I am very very sorry, just know my life isn't going very well right now.

Oh come on, hang in there man. We are here for you. When I am depressed, I do something that makes me happy...B2 BABY!!! But seriously try talking to a a friend. Just talking about what is making you depressed really helps. Hand in there. Besides Assassin's Creed should cheer you up!! LOL WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!!

[th3st1ck]

i dont have many tips

but like kyler said, do anything to get your mind off of it

play some BF2, BF2142, counter strike

go outside have some fun, anything to get your mind off it

[Trooper110]

I've had depression before. It wasn't chemical imbalances so what ended up working for me in the end was facing up to the issues and dealing with them. After that it still took some work and I still get small jolts of it from time to time. I did talk to family and friends and have help on that front, and I had some professional help as well. Depression isn't something you can just get over tomorrow or take a magic blue pill and make go away. I'd suggest discussing it with family and friends and loved ones if you haven't yet, and definitely seek some kind of professional help, be it your family doctor or some kind of psychiatric help. You don't necessarily need or want to take drugs for it, but it's an option you can also discuss.

[Jeffro]

in the great dane cook's words. " i would just go on a baby punching spree" lol j/k man. i get through stuff by thinking of it like this. if i'm worrying about something coming up or something in my life i just think "man in a year i'm not even gonna be thinking about this anymore" or " in a week" or like at work all i think is " man at 6:00 i know i'm just gonna be chillen at the house" just think big picture and thats how i get past my hard days.

[{CLR}geneSW]

I Know that when I get all angry and peeved off, I got watch EOD (Explosive Ordinance Disposal) blow stuff up... But I don't think that will work in your case. Honestly, if I was you, I would 1.) Figure out what it is that is causing the depression in the first place, 2.) confront what it is that is causing the depression. But I deal with all problems like that. Remember, what works for one person may not work for another.

I would actually suggest talking to family and friends about this as getting the matter out in the open can help to relieve some of the stress. To be honest with you, my wife has constant battles with depression and every time it's hit her, she's always ended up talking with me about it and that alone has sometimes been enough to curve it. Please, hang in there and remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes it's very very hard to see.

[ryanbatc]

Do you like sports of any type? If not (I am bad at most lol), try jogging or something, get the endorphines running...

I also found that I sorta feel that way if I play too many PC games.... I need to work on this very issue

[Devilguns]

I battle with depression, have even been through therapy over it. I would get pent up rage and hostility built up only to have it released over something minuscule. More times than not on a friend or loved one. It even almost cost me a job one time.

All I can say is you have to take it one day at a time. You say you have regrets and want to do something about it. Believe me thats half of the battle right there. Some people don't even realize somethings going on.

Earlier someone mention sports, thats pretty good advice. I took up going to the Gym and that really helps out a lot. It gives me time to get away from everything and meditate. Definitely take some time out for your self though to work through what ever it is.

[BigTwinky]

Speak to a counselor about it. Does you work have some sort of employee assistance program where you can get a few hours free with a counselor / social worker / psychologist?

In terms of meds, prozac might be able to help, but that is up to a doctor to diagnose. Some people close to me had similar depression symptons that you are having... irritability and having too many things going on that causes a lack of sleep. Its a vicious circle you are in and it will only get worse. Sometimes, we are not equipped to tackle the problems. Its easy to say "just fix whats wrong", but that often seems like a huge mountain to try and climb. Seeking some professional advice is probably a great idea. Not talking about long term sessions, but at least a few meetings to discuss the problems and possible action plan.

Talking about it is the best. Trying to deal with things alone is very hard. In getting over any obstacle, you should build up a support system with friends and family that you can sit down and discuss your problems with. Knowing there are others who know about what you are going through removes a big part of the isolation that is often caused by depression.

And don't do this online. While we have a tendency to discuss problems with net friends, and while this can be a good thing, it in no way replaces discussions with actual people, face to face.

You have to work at your problems one step at a time, one thing at a time. Pick away at all the problems in your life until there are none left. Looking at the whole makes it seem bigger than it is.

So the first step is getting the right tools you need to tackle the problems. Tools often come in the form of education, information and help. Once you have those set, you are good to go.

[juneau]

If you feel it's really started to get to you go see a therapist. I recently went to see one a few months ago and the smallest things were starting to really get to me and sometimes i'd litterally explode. 3 months later i was feeling better than ever.

[Tuqui-tuqui]

hmm... last time I ever had bad symptoms of depression was when the relationship with my fiancee ended. I kept myself busy for about two weeks working longs hours (like I usually do anyway), going out a lot with friends and sleeping over their houses. Try not to stay alone too long or in dark places!

[3EggOmelette]

DA, I deal with these types of things on a regular basis. Every person out there has different way they must follow to cope with depression. Some have it easy and some have it hard. The best place for anyone to start is by calling somebody or finding a close friend or family member you can confide in. Who does not really matter, but talking to somebody will help you figure out what is causing this or possibly point you in the right direction to get things cleared up. Just be honest with both you and that person.

And trust me. I get phone calls about this exact sort of thing every week. Talking to somebody is always the best place to start since it never hurts to just talk.

[mapes]

It's kinda weird but, when I'm depressed or angry my favorite thing to do it to chop wood. It sounds bizarre but, here me out. I think it's very therapeutic for a few reasons.

1. You get to swing a big axe at wood and split it..
2. It's exercise endorphins and all
3. You end up doing something useful cutting and stacking wood.

[BigTwinky]

We need to differentiate between clinical depression and someone having a bad day / week. Treating one the same way you would treat the other usually doesn't very well

[darth_nevus]

me? i disassemble a pc, and rebuild it. or, build a new one in some crazy fashion. thats how my stereo pc came about, and before that, the plexglass box, and before that the breifcase pc, and before that the 4 car pc's, and in that mix somewhere fits the failed parallel linked array of pcs. depending on how bad it is will depend on what i really do. i save the laptops for tinkering when i really need to put my mind somewhere else. i only have 6 of the 14 left, but you'd be surprised at what you can accomplish when you need somethign to distract you, and kick back and relax.